Jonathan Kozel said, “Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.”
This makes a lot of sense to me. Sometimes we pick battles that don’t matter at all, that we will never win, and put a huge amount of energy into them.
Losses like this are not good for your confidence. So I recommend following the quote and picking small battles that matter, that you can win. Your confidence will grow and grow after every win until you are unstoppable.